This Is Why Millennial Women Are Afraid of Dating in 2017

millennial-women-afraid-of-dating-in-2017

Dating in 2017 can be hard. While many millennials find themselves trying to figure out their own lives, the idea of onboarding someone else can be overwhelming. As our days begin with limited time, some millennials compensate with dating apps like MELD, Tinder, or Okcupid, which don’t always yield satisfactory results. For other women, figuring out their lives or finding time aren’t their issues with modern dating. Instead, it’s fear, but what of?

A healthy portion of my own fears is attracting negative energy (that might linger) into my space. Several single women I know have shared these sentiments in one way or another. One friend described it as, “Girl, I don’t have time for foolishness.” From another, I got, “I just don’t want to waste my time.” These one-liners are easy to spit out but the underlying concern is that millennial women are wary about potentially opening their lives up to the wrong person. For those of us in our late 20s-early 30s, we’ve experienced breakups, let downs, and some, 2nd and 3rd chances in dead end relationships. Some might call this apprehension childish, being too guarded, or as an elder stated, “a lack of faith”, but I’d respectfully disagree. Our lived experiences play a role and that should be taken into consideration.

In this 3-part podcast series with Jay Mayo, founder of Right to R.E.A.L. Love, a relationship podcast for Christians, we had some real talk about reasons why women, specifically millennials, are afraid to date today. It was liberating to discuss why these fears are valid and shouldn’t be ignored for the sake of combating loneliness. Contrarily, Jay and I also discussed the importance of working through those fears and not allowing them to stifle your growth in life and love.

Take a listen to Why Some Women Are Afraid to Date in 2017 and share your thoughts in the comments.

Part 1 – Why Millenial Women Are Afraid of Dating in 2017

 

Part 2 – Why Millenial Women Are Afraid of Dating in 2017

 

Part 3 – Why Millenial Women Are Afraid of Dating in 2017

 

Are you scared to date? Have you ever been?


Ariel C. Williams is the founding editor-in-chief of Slay Culture. She’s a millennial who’s down for the culture, loves Netflix, and pegs Master P as one of her entrepreneurial heroes. Buy her book The Girl Talk Chronicles here. Follow her at @ArielSaysNow everywhere.

Slay Culture

Author

Slay Culture curates content and experiences for smart and lit Black millennials. Follow us online everywhere at @SlayCulture.

  • Aycee Brown

    Afraid of dating? No! A bit discouraged, maybe. But I know that I have the power to attract who I want in my life. So for me, as long as I focus on that I know I will be fine. The man that’s perfect for me is just around the corner in my eyes.

    • Aycee, you better speak this love over your life! You’re right, though. Knowing we have the power to attract the *right* people is powerful on its own. Step 1 for sure.

    • Aycee, you better speak this love over your life! You’re right, though. Knowing we have the power to attract the *right* people is powerful on its own. Step 1 for sure.

      • Aycee Brown

        A lot people fail to realize that all the good and bad relationships in our life we attracted it into our lives. So if we were feeling unworthy we attracted someone who made us feel that way. So yes dating makes me a bit discouraged but I have the power to change my mindset about it. To look at in a different perspective.

    • Jay

      I can totally understand that. Thank you so much for your honesty Aycee.

      I hope you enjoyed the discussion with Ariel!

      • Aycee Brown

        Your welcome.